I talk a lot about having a positive mindset, the importance of having a purpose-driven life, and working towards our goals and our vision.
I also talk a lot about being motivated and getting things done by taking action.
What we don’t talk a lot about is how do we deal with difficult situations when they come up; a loss, something happening in our family, our emotions, other people’s emotions – including the shit WE cause!
Filling the void
Most times we avoid these things. And we avoid them, hide, or medicate ourselves so as to not to have to deal with these things. That can be anything from binging Netflix, booze, drugs, sex, food, and just overall “drama.”
We use all those things to fill the voids and to take the pain of the situation out of the equation for a little bit.
To hide from it. To mask it.
We’ll tell ourselves and others how it’s not fair, especially if people around us are listening to us.
You’ve got people all around you that will talk to you and will piss and moan to you, simply because you listen.
But we do that ourselves as well. It’s only natural that we get into those situations, but sometimes we get caught up in that cycle.
We sit in our own self-pity as a baby sits in a shitty diaper – hoping that someone will come along and clean it up for us.
But we know, deep down inside, that it really is up to us,
At the end of the day, it’s all on us. It’s up to us how we’re going to deal with it.
Rather than avoiding the issues, or continuing to keep running into the same issues, we need to face them head-on. We need to acknowledge the pain and push towards a solution. We’ve got to push towards our goals and the vision of where we want to go.
We have to push to get to the other side.
There’s a really cool Latin phrase, Sustine et Abstine, which means Bear and Forbear.
Endure what we must.
But once we turn and face something–once we decide to deal with something–rather than let it go on and on, grin and bear it, bite your teeth and get through it.
Get to the other side.
And I’ll tell you, once you’re through to the other side we can look at what caused that situation.
Why are these things happening to us?
That’s for another post, but I’ll give you a hint – it’s because of us that these situations happen.
Until next time,