To some you will be a Hero – to others a Villain

When we decide to make huge changes in our lives, we expect there to be many positives. But we also know to expect some problems along the way.

Positives

  • we will feel better,
  • lose weight,
  • get stronger,
  • feel more confident,

Problems

  • it’s gonna be hard at first,
  • we’re going to get tired at times,
  • we can feel lost and overwhelmed.

The Unexpected

Then there is the stuff we don’t expect.

How many people will be inspired by our progress?

How many people will have a problem with our progress?

Even stranger…

The people who know us the least will be the ones most inspired.

The people closest to us are some of the ones who will have the biggest issues with what we are doing.

it’s kinda fucked up – at first

Soon though it will just be part of the journey, part of the experiences you will have along the way to becoming the very best version of yourself.

It’s part of the price of success and change.

Just last week…within the space of 24 hours,

I received two very different messages.

First – I was told that I had become “self-absorbed” and I was a poor communicator.

Second – literally 24 hours later I was sent this message…

“I’m not sure you know how many lives you’ve touched… your name has come up a number of times. You are doing great work!”

Talk about diametrically opposed messages!!

I’d like to say that the negative message didn’t bother me. But I’m human, so it did. At first.

The old me would have really spent a lot of time spinning on that negative message.

Instead, I looked at the positive message harder – deeper.

In the end I came up with this…

To some you will be a Hero – to others you will be a Villain.

Venom – Hero to some Villain to others

When I sat and thought about the messages even further, I realized both messages were actually very true.

I have become more self-absorbed!

I put my health – my mindset – fitness – my transformation, first above all else and everyone else.

But that type of self-absorbed has also inspired hundreds, maybe even thousands at this point, and will only continue to grow.

My transformation journey is allowing me to lead and help so many more people.

The more self-absorbed I am becoming, the more I have to offer and give to others!

The “Self Absorbed – Hero – Villain ” me…

…Is happier,

Is stronger Mentally and Physically,

IS a better man – husband -father – business partner – leader – friend.

BUT don’t worry, there’s still lots of room for improvement in all areas too.

Self-Absorbed or Inspiration as seen by others is just that – how others see me based on what’s happening in their hearts and minds.

The big difference is what I believe about myself – what my definition of self-absorbed is.

Yes, I am both a Hero and a Villain.

It’s the only way we can improve and move forward.

I accept it.

There is a time and a place for both

Be ready!

 

Struggle – Persevere – Succeed – Inspire

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If You are Serious, Write shit down Episode 177

This is the low hanging fruit that you can easily grab and start making a change today!

It starts with writing things down, your goals – your dreams – your action plan

Writing things down encourages daily progress

Before anyone tries to improve themselves, their thoughts, or their actions, the first step should always be to evaluate their past and current situation.

By writing things down, you’d have a record of what you did, thought of, and acted on so this helps you reflect on what worked and what didn’t. You can gauge your strengths and weaknesses and identify how you spend your time and energy.

 

 

 

I have always said, my very best training happens when I write everything down in my training journal.

My mind takes it more serious – my body takes it more serious

I have a way of making sure I continue to push and progress

Some days – I feel like dog shit and really don’t want to think about training – but with a workout that’s written down – I just work on getting it done

1 line – 1 exercise – 1 set at at time..

In no time flat workout is done

Mind and Body are in a much different place due to adrenaline and endorphins

Best of all – I didn’t skip and I kept myself accountable

Always being pulled forward – Not even I can get in my own way that way.

 

Struggle

Persevere

Succeed

Inspire

 

Curd

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You’re wearing your shirts too tight!

curd arms barbell curl

This is a message that was sent to me last night after I posted this picture just after I finished my back and biceps workout.

“You’re wearing your shirts too tight…”

I shit you not. And this person who has been a Facebook friend and lifter for years – was serious!

Initially, I responded with “LoL” truly believing he was busting my balls for fun – as a lot of us guys do.

Then he came back with, “No man, I’m being totally serious!.. In fact, a lot of people are laughing at you behind your back!”

I wasn’t surprised–OK, maybe a little from who this was coming from–but not surprised about the comments.

I just responded with “Hey I get it, probably the same people who laughed at me when I was almost 400 lbs and my shirts were even tighter – just around my gut instead of the chest and arms.”

He went quiet after that, the conversation was done.

The truth is, there will be people in your life who will have a problem with you when you start to succeed.

They will have something shitty to say or they won’t comment at all when you post something showing the progress you’re making (funny because they will comment or “like” your post about kittens in a tree you shared the day before)!

When someone uses the empirical statistical number of “a lot of people” that’s just more bullshit being made up to try and make their negative opinion seem more legit.

But that’s how this goes

First off, we shouldn’t be doing anything in our lives for any else’s approval.

But, we are still human after all, and a negative comment can sting a little–or a lot–depending on where you are on the self-confidence scale. 

When people say they have a problem with what you’re doing in regards to your transformation goals, life achievements, etc, they are really demonstrating that the problem is with their own internal dialogue and feelings

It’s really not about you, at all.

One of the very first things I talk about with my new transformation clients is exactly this issue.

There will be people who do not want you to succeed.

They feel it reflects poorly on them, this is an internal reaction they have because they aren’t happy with themselves.

It’s just easier to point those feelings outward on you – rather than inward on themselves.

But there will also be people in your corner.

You also need to be aware that when someone does say something positive, that’s something you should really appreciate.

Use that as positive reinforcement, but don’t rely on it. 

As I said before, you should be working on these transformational life changes for you, and for you only.

After all it ONLY matters what you think and believe about yourself.

For me…

I really just take all this negativity as a compliment.

And…

I’m expecting a shit ton more of these “compliments” as I keep evolving and continue to create the superhero version of myself!

Ready to make a Transformation?

The Iron Will 28-Day Reboot is a four-week, step-by-step transformation program for men & women 35 & over, that includes a clean meal plan, personalized supplementation, fat-burning & body-changing workouts, and daily inspiration to help you feel STRONG & CONFIDENT, look AMAZING and have much more ENERGY to do the things you really want to do!